WOW, I have received about 14 emails on NiteFlirt and a couple of comments here on my blog about my previous post regarding the “facts” of what has transpired since Obama took office.

Firstly, I respect everyone’s opinon regarding politics.  And, everything else, too.

Secondly, because I voice/post my opinions, doesn’t mean I am right.  Although, I am very right, as you know, politically speaking!

Thirdly, It’s great to know that despite my not blogging of sex or phonesex, that my blog is being read!

And finally, Political Science was my first major in college.  Yeah, your little Fancier wanted to be an Attorney, furthering my career into politics.  Ha!  Didn’t happen.  Debate was always my forte’, however.

As most of you know, I am very outspoken regarding my views and opinions, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t respect yours.  So please, do not take my sometimes “banter” as disrespect!

Anyway, how’s the weather where y’all are?

Hi–Ho Cheerio…have a beautiful day!

Y’all that tried to warn me…. well, you were right again!!

Well, I was really hoping to lay out and get some Vitamin D today, but with the skies looming very mysteriously, I guess I am stuck inside for the moment!

Anyway, I am a thinker… my mind is always in thought of one thing or another.  Sometimes, when I lay my head upon my pillow at night to get some much needed rest, my mind goes… thinking of this and that… singing songs in my head… reliving situations, things that I should have said and didn’t or, wishing I hadn’t have said things… done things… anticipating the future… y’all know how it is, don’tcha?

Well, a couple of nights ago, as I lay trying to fall asleep, my mind wanders to the maternal “instinct” in me… no, I don’t have children, but that’s not to say that I didn’t/don’t want them.  In fact, quite the contrary.  I always thought, and still do, that I would be the bomb diggity of a mom!  Anyway… so, as I laid here, I was thinking of advice I would give a son or daughter… derived from lessons learned over my life, or maybe, advice I’d gotten from others.  Perhaps, this advice would come from, like I said earlier, things that I wish I would have done myself or, things I have witnessed others do, that I never had the courage to do.

I know, pretty strange entry for my sex blog… but, knowing that most of my clients are dads, I just thought I would share my thoughts…

So, here we go….

1.  Thank you notes are an absolute must!  When someone gives you a gift, whether it be material or otherwise, let them know how much it means to you.  And, thank you notes must always be written on personal stationary, never via text, email or telephone.  Well, you can call, but always follow up the call with a hand written note of thanks.

2.  Life is too short not to order a big fat juicy burger every once in awhile! 

3.  Give charitably, generously, and anonymously.  There are always those less fortunate than yourself.  Don’t boast, nobody needs to know where the gift came from, just give it.

4.  If you love someone, let them know.  Never hold back the expression of love.  Afterall, wouldn’t you want to know same?

5.  Always keep your eye on the ball.  In sports, and in life.  Never lose sight of the ball.   About the time you lose sight, it will smack you in the face, and that just doesn’t feel good.

6.  Never regret saying no.  Unless it is in your heart to say yes, don’t say it.  But, don’t beat yourself up for telling people no.

7.  Learn to entertain, and in the midst, laugh at yourself.  From singing in the shower to dancing in a crowded park… entertain and laugh.

8.  Happiness is not fame, money, or power.  Who will remember any of the three when you are dead and gone?

9.  Follow your instinct, and try not to get in your way with too much thinking.  (I am guilty of the latter sometimes, and really wish that I wasn’t!)

10.  Being pretty or handsome just isn’t enough.  It’s what is in your heart that really matters.

11.  There is absolutely NO SHAME in crying.  If you feel the tears wanting to flow, let them flow.

12.  When meeting somone for the first time, look them in the eye, smile, and give them a firm handshake.  Yes, girls can shake hands, too!

13.  NEVER lend money to anyone.  If someone is in need and you are willing and able to, give it as a gift.

14.  You cannot change people, no matter how much you want to.  We are all very independent creatures.

15.  NO ONE can hurt you without your permission.  (Yeah, it took me a long time on this one, but I am almost there!)

16.  “Please” and “thank you” will open doors.  Don’t just act polite, be polite.

17.  Realize that we all come from dysfunctional homes.  The only normal people are those you don’t know very well.  (I love this one… and, it is so fucking true!)

18.  Remember that nice girls/guys do finish first.  If you don’t know that, you don’t know where the finish line is!

19.  NOTHING will destroy your life like drugs.  Do drugs, you’re doomed.

20.  Don’t be afraid to wear your heart on your sleeve.  It is one part of us not visible to the naked eye.  The core of who we are.  Take it out and show it off every now and again.

21.  You cannot run away from your problems.  Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.  (Amen.)

22.  NEVER date someone that you wouldn’t want to be the mother or father to your children.

23.  Learn from the good, as well as the bad.  Fall down, make a mess.  Break something occasionally.  And always remember that the story is never over.

24.  Remember, you’re in this world for a good time, not a long time… so LIVE and LOVE with all you have.

25.  When posing for photos, assume that the only one that will see them are me, your boss and the Dean of Admissions.

I could go on forever and ever… but, these are just a sample of things I would relay to my children if I had them.  I wish some of these tips would have been relayed to me earlier in my life… but,

26.  You’re never too old to learn!!!!

Hoping it is sunny wherever y’all are!!

Ciao,

Lyndee

Anyone that wasn’t emotionally, and spiritually moved by the Memorial Service held this afternoon for the undisputed King of Pop, Michael Jackson, cannot be normal.  If at some point, you didn’t feel a little thump in your chest, lump in your throat or, the warmness of a tear escaping the corner of your eye, you’re just not normal.

Like him or not, Michael Jackson will forever be known as the King of Pop.  Like him or not, he was a man of great love and passion.  A passion not just to be shared on stage, but behind the scenes, probably moreso. 

It wasn’t until today, that I learned that Michael holds the Guiness World Book of Records for Most Charities Supported By A Pop Star!  It is no secret, Michael’s Human Nature spanned the globe. 

I mean, the Beatles were huge!  Elvis was huge!  Madonna is huge!  U2 is huge! 

Michael Jackson, is the King of Pop! 

From the start, with Smokey Robinson sharing notes of condolence from Diana Ross and Nelson Mandella… to, well I will get to that later, it was a Memorial jam packed with emotion.  There were tears.  There was laughter.  There was utter silence.  There was the joining of hands.  There were hugs, and more hugs.

Queen Latiffah, Lionel Ritchie, Stevie Wonder, Mariah Carey, Smokey Robinson, Berry Gordy, Jennifer Hudson, John Mayer, Kobe Bryant, Magic Johnson, Brooke Shields, Usher, Bernice King, Martin Luther King, III, Al Sharpton, Sheila Jackson Lee (Congresswoman from TX)… did I miss anyone?

Mariah singing “I’ll Be There” and Jennifer singing  “Will You Be There” … then his brother, Jermaine, singing Michael’s all time favorite song, “Smile”… or Usher, when he sang “Gone Too Soon”… the tears over here flowed… and I do mean… flowed!  I really didn’t think Usher was going to make it through… he, too, was crying.

YES, it is okay for a man to cry.

The video monterage… Michael, from just a little lad appearing with his brothers on the Ed Sullivan show, sporting a pink cowboy hat and purple vest, to the debut of the “Robot” and “Moon Walk”.  These were Michael.  Don’t even try and tell me that you never attempted the “Moon Walk”?  We all have…

Stories shared by all of those that knew and loved him.  Shared a genuine friendship and admiration for the King of Pop.  These people sparked emotion from people that thought that they were probably untouchable.

Many of us grew up listening to Michael.  If you didn’t grow up during this era, you still know Michael… you’ve heard about him.  You’ve listened to him on the radio.  You’ve seen his famed videos, some featured in major movies.  Everybody has heard of, danced to, emmulated, talked about… the King of Pop, Michael Jackson.

The Senate Floor stopped on June 25, 2009, after hearing the news of Michael’s passing… giving him a moment of silence.  Only to be followed by Resolution 600, declaring Michael Jackson an American Legend, World Humanitarian and Music Icon.  Those are some big shoes to fill, my friends.

Michael was a broken and beaten man.  Again, whether you liked him or not, he was the greatest, thus far.  Why?  Because everyone says so!  He was human, living his life as he enjoyed it.  He was the guy that sat in the middle of the floor, sharing a bucket of Kentucky Fried Chicken with Magic Johnson.  He was all American.  And, always will be.

As one of the many speakers said, speaking to Michael’s children,  ”Your daddy was not strange.  It was strange what he had to deal with.”  I, for one, believe that wholeheartedly.  I mean, not being able to walk out of your front door… not being able to walk in the park… not being able to go to a mall, a grocery store, an ice cream shop.  Being held hostage to your home.  Or, ranch.  Or, castle.  He couldn’t live a “normal” life like we know it. So, he had to create his own. Do you understand?

Michael has been persecuted.  By the media.  By those that were not present.  By those that judged him because he chose to pay 20 million dollars rather than fight in court.  By those that choose to believe that just because he was “different” from most of us.  By those that choose to persecute, simply based upon the color of one’s skin. 

Ashame.  And, shame on those of you that have unjustly judged him.  There is not but ONE Judge, and I will put matters into His hands.

Throughout the nothing short of commanding tribute to the King of Pop, I cried.  My friends cried.  Media people cried. 

It’s Human Nature.

Jermaine singing, “Smile”… evoked a flood of tears.  Damn. 

But… but… but…

Nobody will EVER forget his daughter, who at the end, spoke the words…

“Ever since I was born, daddy has been the best father you could ever imagine.  And, I just wanted to say I love him so much.”

And. Yes. I. Cried. And. Cried. And. Cried. Some more.

What a tribute to the King of Pop…uniting people around the world, in a way that only he could do.

Rest In Peace, Michael, something you never had on earth.

Hoping y’all have a happy and safe day! I will be back on Monday!!