Well, I was really hoping to lay out and get some Vitamin D today, but with the skies looming very mysteriously, I guess I am stuck inside for the moment!
Anyway, I am a thinker… my mind is always in thought of one thing or another. Sometimes, when I lay my head upon my pillow at night to get some much needed rest, my mind goes… thinking of this and that… singing songs in my head… reliving situations, things that I should have said and didn’t or, wishing I hadn’t have said things… done things… anticipating the future… y’all know how it is, don’tcha?
Well, a couple of nights ago, as I lay trying to fall asleep, my mind wanders to the maternal “instinct” in me… no, I don’t have children, but that’s not to say that I didn’t/don’t want them. In fact, quite the contrary. I always thought, and still do, that I would be the bomb diggity of a mom! Anyway… so, as I laid here, I was thinking of advice I would give a son or daughter… derived from lessons learned over my life, or maybe, advice I’d gotten from others. Perhaps, this advice would come from, like I said earlier, things that I wish I would have done myself or, things I have witnessed others do, that I never had the courage to do.
I know, pretty strange entry for my sex blog… but, knowing that most of my clients are dads, I just thought I would share my thoughts…
So, here we go….
1. Thank you notes are an absolute must! When someone gives you a gift, whether it be material or otherwise, let them know how much it means to you. And, thank you notes must always be written on personal stationary, never via text, email or telephone. Well, you can call, but always follow up the call with a hand written note of thanks.
2. Life is too short not to order a big fat juicy burger every once in awhile!
3. Give charitably, generously, and anonymously. There are always those less fortunate than yourself. Don’t boast, nobody needs to know where the gift came from, just give it.
4. If you love someone, let them know. Never hold back the expression of love. Afterall, wouldn’t you want to know same?
5. Always keep your eye on the ball. In sports, and in life. Never lose sight of the ball. About the time you lose sight, it will smack you in the face, and that just doesn’t feel good.
6. Never regret saying no. Unless it is in your heart to say yes, don’t say it. But, don’t beat yourself up for telling people no.
7. Learn to entertain, and in the midst, laugh at yourself. From singing in the shower to dancing in a crowded park… entertain and laugh.
8. Happiness is not fame, money, or power. Who will remember any of the three when you are dead and gone?
9. Follow your instinct, and try not to get in your way with too much thinking. (I am guilty of the latter sometimes, and really wish that I wasn’t!)
10. Being pretty or handsome just isn’t enough. It’s what is in your heart that really matters.
11. There is absolutely NO SHAME in crying. If you feel the tears wanting to flow, let them flow.
12. When meeting somone for the first time, look them in the eye, smile, and give them a firm handshake. Yes, girls can shake hands, too!
13. NEVER lend money to anyone. If someone is in need and you are willing and able to, give it as a gift.
14. You cannot change people, no matter how much you want to. We are all very independent creatures.
15. NO ONE can hurt you without your permission. (Yeah, it took me a long time on this one, but I am almost there!)
16. “Please” and “thank you” will open doors. Don’t just act polite, be polite.
17. Realize that we all come from dysfunctional homes. The only normal people are those you don’t know very well. (I love this one… and, it is so fucking true!)
18. Remember that nice girls/guys do finish first. If you don’t know that, you don’t know where the finish line is!
19. NOTHING will destroy your life like drugs. Do drugs, you’re doomed.
20. Don’t be afraid to wear your heart on your sleeve. It is one part of us not visible to the naked eye. The core of who we are. Take it out and show it off every now and again.
21. You cannot run away from your problems. Wherever you go, you take yourself with you. (Amen.)
22. NEVER date someone that you wouldn’t want to be the mother or father to your children.
23. Learn from the good, as well as the bad. Fall down, make a mess. Break something occasionally. And always remember that the story is never over.
24. Remember, you’re in this world for a good time, not a long time… so LIVE and LOVE with all you have.
25. When posing for photos, assume that the only one that will see them are me, your boss and the Dean of Admissions.
I could go on forever and ever… but, these are just a sample of things I would relay to my children if I had them. I wish some of these tips would have been relayed to me earlier in my life… but,
26. You’re never too old to learn!!!!
Hoping it is sunny wherever y’all are!!
Ciao,
Lyndee
